Skip to main content

Welcome

I am a psychotherapist who earned his PhD in Clinical Psychology at Yale University and has more than forty years of experience working with individuals, couples and families. I listen deeply and help people utilize their strengths to address their vulnerabilities in order to get more traction with issues that have them stuck.

Read more...

A Mess With a Purpose

Renovation is a mess with a purpose.

When you decide to renovate your kitchen, it’s because the kitchen as it was organized didn’t work the way you wanted it to.  So you renovate.  In the middle of the renovation project the kitchen is a mess.  The stove doesn’t work.  Everything is out of the cabinets.  You cannot prepare a meal.  Things don’t work as well as they did before the renovation.  You may  feel discouraged “Will things ever work again?”


When you are in therapy it’s a different kind of renovation.  Things weren’t working so well....and then you undertook identifying old patterns that were not constructive....and trying to catch yourself and not simply fall into them.  While this is going on should it be surprising that things don’t work as well as before the therapy, before trying to make changes?

Renovations aren't just ordinary messes.  They are messes with a purpose.

When you are in a mess,  perhaps there is a purpose lurking there to be discovered and made into a project.   

Projects take time, effort and toleration of the mess.